Society moulds us to think that we should glorify independence above all. We’ve been taught to "tough it out.” Hence asking for help feels like admitting defeat. There’s a lingering fear that our struggles will weigh others down, or we might feel like we’re being a bother.
What if you’re judged? What if no one understands? Or worse, what if they think your problems aren’t even that big?
We all have different reasons for hesitating when it comes to seeking help.
These fears can be so overwhelming that they hold us back, but it’s important to remember that they’re not rooted in reality.
The truth is:
everyone needs help sometimes.
Here are the ways to break down those barriers and feel more confident about reaching out.
Admit That You’re Feeling Stuck
You don’t have to pretend like you’ve got it all together. Maybe it’s the fear of being judged, or maybe you’re worried no one will really get what you’re going through. Whatever it is, start by saying it out loud (even just to yourself): “I’m nervous about this, but I know I need help.” Just acknowledging your fear takes the pressure off having to be “strong” all the time. You’re human and it’s normal to feel stuck.
Start Little by Little
You don’t need to dive into the deep end right away. Think of it like dipping your toes in the water. Start small by sharing a little bit with someone you trust. You don’t have to unload everything at once, saying “I’ve been feeling off lately” can be a good opener. You’ll see that most people won’t rush to solve everything but will listen, which makes it easier to keep sharing bit by bit.
Pick Your People Wisely
Not everyone in your life needs to be part of your support system, and that’s totally fine. Think about the people who’ve made you feel safe in the past. Maybe it’s a friend who always listens, or maybe it’s a sibling who’s seen you at your worst. Whoever it is, choose someone who you know won’t judge you or dismiss your feelings. And if that person happens to be a therapist or counsellor? Great! What matters is that you feel comfortable, even if it’s just one person.
One of the hardest parts of reaching out is feeling like you don’t deserve help. At Novissimo Counselling, we make sure that you don’t have to earn the right to care for yourself. Reach out to us today and have a better understanding of yourself.
